There are 2 ways to get through the pain of a breakup. You can wait it out or ride it out. Waiting it out means just that - literally soaking in it, sometimes for years, until it finally passes and doesn't hurt as much. (nothing more fun than marinating in suffering.) Riding it out is the opposite. Riding it out is when you strap on your suit, grab your long board, and force yourself to get on the wave. In survey after survey, the stories revealed that those who forced themselves to push through the rough waters got through it feeling empowered and confident about their abilities to navigate relationships in the future. Those who waited it out were seething with resentment for the wasted years of their lives and were still wrestling with confusion. I know it's still a hard choice - seething or confident, seething or confident? How about them apples? Sprucing yourself up is the epitome of riding it out. It's a shitty journey, but at least you're gonna look hot on the way.!
When you have found yourself, being alone is privilege, not a punishment. All the good work that you do comes when you are alone. All of your dreams are dreamed alone. Your best ideas are conceived in solitude. Your dream of a better world and the contribution you will make to it will also come when you are alone. Your creations and inventions, your solutions to the problems that most vex you, all come to you in isolation. It is only when you are by yourself that you can be receptive to the stillness of your inner voice. This is the voice that tells you what you need to know, the inner directive, the heart of your soul given words. This solitude is the place from which your originality and specialness issue. In your aloneness you hear music and see art most clearly. Only when you are alone can you receive the gifts the world presents. In your aloneness you are in touch with the energy that runs the world. The things you take from this place fortify your spirit with grace, forgive your ineptness, and fill you with new resolve. Learn to love being with yourself. It is the highest place to which you can aspire.