There are 2 ways to get through the pain of a breakup. You can wait it out or ride it out. Waiting it out means just that - literally soaking in it, sometimes for years, until it finally passes and doesn't hurt as much. (nothing more fun than marinating in suffering.) Riding it out is the opposite. Riding it out is when you strap on your suit, grab your long board, and force yourself to get on the wave. In survey after survey, the stories revealed that those who forced themselves to push through the rough waters got through it feeling empowered and confident about their abilities to navigate relationships in the future. Those who waited it out were seething with resentment for the wasted years of their lives and were still wrestling with confusion. I know it's still a hard choice - seething or confident, seething or confident? How about them apples? Sprucing yourself up is the epitome of riding it out. It's a shitty journey, but at least you're gonna look hot on the way.!
In feelings there is wisdom, for the simplest feelings speak the greatest truth. Pain in life comes from avoiding the truth that your feelings tell. Become comfortable with your feelings, because your feelings are your life. Trust your feelings. They're the only true guidance you'll ever get. If you know what you're feeling, you know what the world is revealing to you. If you cannot be true to your feelings, you cannot be true to yourself. Trust them, but first you have to know what you really feel. When you find out when a feeling STARTED, you also find out WHY. The feelings you are afraid to release cause you to hold onto other things. Stay-up-to-date with your feelings. Don't store them. When a feeling ages, it becomes less honest. The more immediately you express your hurt, the more completely it resolves. Stand up for your feelings and you're free to be yourself. You have to be able to cry to live fully, for tears in the right place cause healing. Your feelings are explanation enough. Let them speak. The greatest credential is the human heart.